My story, and for that matter the World’s Best Mediator and the Science of Inner Strength, begins, with of all things, emotional abuse….well AND the response to it. My understanding of emotional abuse, is the key by which a world of understanding was opened up to me. I call my story a Biblical level story, and as I share, you will potentially begin to agree with me.
It begins like this: I was raised in Scranton, PA. The first son of two prominent, and eventually very prominent people, Morey and Sondra Myers. Within a six or so block area, lived my four grandparents, our elementary school, and even Temple Israel. Things seemed very close-knit, walking to school, sports, visits with our grandparents. In short growing up in Scranton, in the years I did, as for instance, President Joe Biden notes was an intensely formative experience, my own especially so, given the degree of parenting, and extended family, with strict values that I experienced.
Part of my message is that a good part of our initial emotional fabric, can be determined by our growing experience, and our parents, for better or worse, may leave a huge imprint upon us. For the most part I saw my raising in a positive light. Then in 1988, a perfect storm of events occurred. My younger brother David Nathan Myers, living in Los Angeles, and his wife Nomi Maya Stolzenberg, initiated a psychological assault on my life. Something in hindsight, I viewed as an actual psychopathic type of attack. In addition, I went through a temporary marital separation from my then, now late wife Margaret Carney, which shattered in a way the emotional stability, evidently false at that of the family. Finally, my Grandfather Morris B. Gelb passed away, leaving an estate of about $10 million. My parents, Morey and Sondra Myers joined with my aunt and uncle, the late Jerome and Beverly Klein of Scranton, and also Attorney Richard S. Bishop, of Hourigan, Kluger and Quinn, to handle the estate inappropriately, dramatically understating the value to the IRS.
“Oddly” to use a word my daughter was to use, in a major college entrance essay and successful for that matter; the net effect of those three events of 1988, was to create this typhoon-like effect of emotional energy, virtually ALL directed at me. Given that I had been raised, with a sense of benevolence, I had really never heard of such a thing, of assaulting and scapegoating in such a way. For some, reason, rage arose in my family, and it was virtually ALL directed at me. This dynamic, like an iceberg, check out my book “Iceberg: Exposing Psychopathic Behavior and Restoring our Humanity on Amazon.com” was the beginning what I call an extreme narcissistic or even psychopathic assault.
What I wish to convey as far as emotional abuse is both its incendiary nature, as well as its basic assault on a human being’s mind and soul. Understanding emotional abuse gets at the notion of why people hate in the first place? What are the roots of negativity? People acting in harmful ways, essentially have no inner strength or spiritual center of their own. By spiritual center, I mean a sense of decency, care, self-respect, whatever it be. When we are full enough inside with something positive, we have little need to engage in negative behavior with other human beings.